You're hot. You're smart & you know what's up. Chicktellectual Detox helps you figure out what to do while you're waiting for the rest of the world to evolve.

As chicktellectuals, we get the best of both worlds in many ways: we can have a great career and a great love life. But society sends us conflicting messages that say achieving it all isn't possible: we hear that careers are only for men and for women who act like men. We're left feeling like women who value relationships can’t also value their careers, and that successful women can't also be nice women.

Juggling conflicting expectations can be emotionally exhausting!

So, if we want a great career and a great love life, we end up with conflicting messages in our brains, and we start thinking something is wrong with us for wanting something perfectly normal. Below is a list of common things we chicktellectuals might find ourselves thinking as a result of societies messages. They are the Don’ts, and they are based on society’s conflicting messages about us. Beside them are the Dos, a list of ways to replace society’s message with a chicktellectual-positive message.

Here's how it works: don’t put “shouldn’t” in front of a feeling because feelings are always okay. Replace it with acceptance: “I feel _____.” Give yourself permission to listen to the action that your feeling suggests.

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